I
was about seven years old the first time I remember being scared to death.
I
was sitting in the school cafeteria with my friend Daryl eating lunch. I’m
pretty sure I was eating peanut butter and jelly, unless it was during one of
those “healthy” periods when my mom was sending us to school with carrot and
raisin sandwiches (long story).
I
believe I was also eating a yogurt. And when I realized I had forgotten a
spoon, I walked up to the front of the cafeteria, got one, and brought it back
to my seat.
For
some reason, I got it in my head that trying to bend the spoon would be a funny
thing to do. I’m not sure if I had seen someone on TV do that or if I was
working on a magic trick (I was a magic trick nerd as a kid) involving spoon
bending.
At
any rate, I tried to bend the spoon. And wouldn’t you know it, it didn’t bend.
Instead,
it broke… in two pieces.
I
started laughing that nervous kind of laugh you do when you’re not sure what to
do next. My “friend” looked over at me and said something like, “I’m going to
tell the cafeteria ladies that you broke the spoon…”
At
that point, my memory is blank. I really have no idea what happened after that.
The power of the fear that hit me in the moment I thought I would be “reported
to the authorities” was enough to blank everything out.
To
the best of my knowledge, the fear I first felt that day has never left me.
Friend,
Foe or Companion?
Over
the years, my relationship with fear has changed. At first, I was completely
unaware that it was running my life.
My
fear of the future kept me from taking actions I should have taken and it
compelled me to take other actions I shouldn’t have taken.
Fear
controlled me like a puppet. It pulled the strings. Walk here, say that, do
this.
As
I grew older, I began to treat fear as an adversary. Something to be fought,
controlled, managed, and overcome.
As
a musician working his butt off towards a career of performing, I was filled
with fear just about every day of my life. Saturday nights were fear days
because I had to play for church in the morning. Sunday nights were fear days
when I had to play in organ class on Monday. Then there were the funerals, and
the weddings and the concerts, recitals and competitions.
I
can say that fear has been a companion in my life longer than any person. It is
always there, at some level, reminding me of things I need to learn.
The
worst thing about fear isn’t that you walk around with some level of dread in
your gut. The worst thing about fear is that, if granted permission, it will
silently rob you of enjoying the gift of life that you’ve been given.
You
look out at the world, but you forget to enjoy the fullness of the world
looking back at you. You are able to exist but you are not able to truly live.
How
to Deal with Fear
First,
get clear on what fear is at its most basic level. Fear is little more than
energy. It is the same energy that powers every other part of your body and
your life. This is neither good nor bad.
Second,
understand that fear does not mean that you are “broken.” You are not broken.
You are not a piece of factory garbage that somehow made it out of the quality
control department without inspection. Who you are is the person you were
intended to be.
Fear
is part of that person. It is a part of who you are. So investing time and
effort “trying to get rid of it” doesn’t totally make sense. In my experience,
it also doesn’t work. In fact, the harder you try, the worse it gets. That’s
because by directing more energy at the issue, you are only feeding it.
Third,
if you are filled with fear, understand what that means about the stores of
energy you have available to you to move forward towards your goals.
The
fact is, you have enormous stores of energy available to you for your journey.
Fear is proof that is true. Fear is an enormous source of energy. The trick is
to use that consciously rather than unconsciously.
So
what’s to be done about fear?
As
Robert Frost says, “the best way out is always through.”
When
it comes to dealing with fear, I finally realized there is nothing to fight.
There is nothing to resist. There is nothing to “get rid of.” There is only the
choice to accept what is or to struggle with what is.
When
you accept fear as a companion, you stop fighting it. When you stop fighting
it, you stop feeding it. And when you are no longer feeding that ball of
whirling energy, it can be put to uses that are far more important to you.
You
don’t need to kill fear or “get rid of it.” After all, it’s part of you.
Instead, you need to look directly at it and say, “that is part of who I am at
this moment.” OWN that. Accept it. And then move forward in the direction
of your goals.
Stop
looking for relief from fear and simply start living your life.
Source :
Written by : Jason Leister
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Patience
pays...........
Presently Holding Position :
NF shorts (6025) - covered at 5935, 5965, 5930, & 5955 (Total 316 points)
BNF shorts (12700) - covered at 12425, 12325, 12230, & 12425 (Total 1395 points)
Positional short trades in both NF & BNF fully closed on 6th June
But at the close on 6th June short again taken in
NF and
long taken in BNF.
 On 7th MySAR both NF and BNF triggered as per MySAR, we took long, went on booking profit partially in between and trailing our stop loss. But in second half, both NF and BNF breached MySAR for short trades, and hence we reversed our trades and took shorts, again went on booking profit partially in between.
NF shorts (5930) - covered at 5905, 5885
BNF shorts (12365) - covered at 12320, 12280, 12225
Trades
triggered on 7th June
1. SBI (F) long taken at 2065…..booked at 2074 (1125 profit)
2. AxisBank
(F) shorted 1419…..covered at 1412 (1750
profit)
3. LT
(F) shorted at 1419.50……covered at 1422 (625
loss)
4. ACC
(F) shorted at 1199…..covered at 1202 (750
loss)
5. ACC
(F) long taken at 1202 …..booked at 1209 (1750
profit)
6. HDFCBank
(F) long taken at 681.50 …..booked at 690 (4250
profit)
7. ACC
(F) long taken at 1211…..booked at 1215 (1000
profit)
8. PNB
(F) shorted at 754…….covered at 741.50 (6250
profit)
9. AxisBank
(F) shorted at 1409…..covered at 1398 (2750
profit)
10. JSWSteel
(F) shorted at 729……covered at 732 (1500
loss)
11. ICICIBank
(F) shorted at 1156…..covered 1145 (2750
profit)
12. SBI
(F) shorted at 2069….carried
13. BNF
positional long 12375……booked at 12340 (- 35
points)
14. BNF
long taken (3L) avp 12390….booked at 12428 (+ 114
points)
15.
BNF shorted (5L) at avp 12360….booked at avp 12308 (+ 260 points)
16.
NF positional shorts 5931……covered at 5945 (-
15 points)
17. NF
long taken (3L) at avp 5946 ….booked at avp 5963 (+
51 points)
18. NF
short taken (3L) at avp 5930…..covered at avp 5903 (+
80 points)
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