How to cope with stress and live happily...? 1. Every problem has a solution and everyone has a problem
Everyone has problems. Literally everyone has problems, big
or small. I have come across many articles and blogs telling how to cope
with them and be happy. But there are some points I have not seen in
many articles or maybe I didn't come across articles having such points.
I would like to share those points with this piece of writing and I
hope it will help those who are in need of it.
2. Avoid when you can
First thing first, many problems which we consider a big one
are AVOIDABLE. Yes you read it right. many problems can be avoided in
life but what do we do with them? we stick to them, keep on thinking
about them and ruin our present for either past or for something which
has no importance in life. Example- break ups, or something "i should
not have done", "why someone commented on me?", "why some kept garbage
on my table?", etc. The moment we start avoiding these things and start
thinking about the things and people we HAVE in life, we feel
rejuvenated, fresh and very much relieved.
3. Treasure what you HAVE
See what you have and not what you DON'T HAVE. Its right to
be progressive in life but thinking about someone else's palace, we
should not ruin the peace and tranquility of our small but sweet home.
Just look around. So many people don't have many things that we have. Be
thankful to the god if you believe in him or be thankful to your life
for bestowing upon you things that you have.
4. Cont.
Some people don't have mother or father; some don't have own
house; some are not economically very strong; some don't get to have an
education; some don't even have clothes to cover body and some do not
even have basic necessities like water , transportation etc. But if we
have anything mentioned above-even one- or anything alike; we should
consider ourselves lucky because many people out there have nothing of
them but still they are living happily or at least struggling with day
to day life without complaining.
5. Learn to forgive
Ramayan, Gita, Quran, Bible- all the religious texts and all
the religions teaches us to forgive others. Even if you do not believe
in religion or god, just imagine how peaceful and serene life would be
if you forgive others who did wrong to you. Do not tolerate wrong acts
but if you are losing your temper and mental peace just because you cant
forgive someone in life, then try and forgive and you would definitely
see a change in your life and will also feel a change within yourself.
6. Change your perception
Its the perception which makes us act or react in life in
many situations. Problems are sometimes not as big as we think they are.
Its just the perception in our minds which makes them big or small. Any
problem might be as small as our assignments once were when we were in
school but today they seem to be nothing. Same way, all problems can be
small if you have will power and you are optimistic. Remember the line
from famous TV show-"Taarak Mehta Ka Ooltah Chashmah"- Problems to hain
sabke paas, bas najariye ki hai baat.
7. Think big
We are humans, the greatest creation of nature; the greatest
creation according to many religious texts. No problem can be bigger
than our strength. We all are individuals, we have an individual
identity and importance. Don't think yourself to be less than anything
or anyone, even if you have any disability- physical, mental, emotional
or any other. We are born with a motive and we all are potential winners
of battles of life.
8. Problems are our best friends
Yes you read it right because they make us what we become.
Remember a diamond needs to be polished and then it becomes precious. An
arrow needs to be pulled BACK to go FAR. A ball goes higher only when
it is thrown with greater force on ground. Milk needs to be churned to
get butter and that too both clockwise and anti-clockwise. Similarly we
also need to have both goods and bads to have a nectar of life and to
have a complete life.
9. Give happiness
Happiness is like shouting in a cave or in hills. The more we
shout and that too in louder voice; the more it comes back with much
intensity. Similarly if we give happiness to others-even small-it comes
back to us in any other form and also much more than you gave. Besides,
it gives us the peace and mental satisfaction which we can't buy with
money.
10. Life gives second chance
We all get a second chance in life. Be it god, destiny or
nature- they always provide us with a second chance. So there is no
place in our life for pessimism or there is no need to think of our self
as a loser. No failure is ultimate, there is always a successful
achievement hidden behind it.
11. Life means happiness
At last I would like to share that I have tried all these
things in life and am still trying. I am not too old to see all the
problems of life but I have seen ups and downs and that too major ones. I
tried these ways when I faced depression and when I had chaos and
tensions in life. But I feel I am blessed to come up with these points
and I hope it will help the readers who need them and who practice them.
12. Be happy this moment...this moment is life
Do not forget that we are a part of this infinite creation
and our problems can never be too big. Trust yourself and remember
friends that YOU are- WE are- an important PART of this huge creation
and we make this creation complete else we would not be here. Remember
that this very moment is happiness, live this moment, it is a gift and
that is probably the reason it is called a present. Be happy, live life.
:)
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