 If there is a problem in our life, we might try to let it go. People are telling you, “If you can’t find a solution to a problem, let it go, surrender.” Yes…..we may let it go, but the problem may not let us go. This always happens, people take loans from the bank, and if they can’t pay them back, they want to let the loan go, but the bank won’t let them go. Life is like that – if we get into some situation, it is like debt. We have to pay it in one way or the other – not with money, but with life. If we are smart enough, we will pay one way, otherwise, we will pay another way, but we have to pay, that is the experience of everyone.
Every
problem is a problem only so long as we call it so. In life, there are no
problems at all – there are only situations. Everything is a situation. If we
call it a “problem” it becomes a problem, otherwise not. If we call it
“wonderful”, then it becomes wonderful automatically.
Somewhere,
right now, somebody is getting married even though they do not want to. They may
think it is a big problem. Now imagine how much suffering this can cause?
Somebody else is getting married, but they want to do so – then also imagine do
how wonderful that marriage day will be
for them? It is just a situation – whether it becomes a problem or otherwise is
just the way we approach it. No situation is airtight because every situation
is evolving. If we don’t want to be in one situation, then we will be in some
another situation ….. then we closely observe that situation and we will seek
where the doorways are. If we just want a breath of fresh air, we can open a
window and make it a little relaxing. If we want to get out, we can open the
door and walk out, that is our choice. If we stay, there is a consequence and
if we leave, there is also a consequence. In any case we have to face the
consequence. Are we ready to face….????
The problem with most people is that
they want the situation, but they do not want the price attached. If anyone
wants to buy clothes, but don’t like the price tag, the only option is to
become a thief. By becoming thief he can have everything for free, but he
always lives in fear and he can become at guest of Police dept. any time. Is
this fear or becoming of guest of Police ….. not a consequence or price..???
The important thing is : “Once
decided, pay the price joyfully. If any one does not pay the price joyfully, he
will have that situation, but become miserable too in consequence. Hence once
decided, there is no right and no wrong. There is only a consequence…..then why
not to accept it joyfully?
So, if you want to evaluate, what is
needed is involvement, not letting go. When you are deeply involved with the
situation and know everything about it, you can make a judgment. Any judgment
you make will be valuable only if it is well-informed. If you don’t know much
about the situation and you are making a judgment, it is bound to be of no
value. So, in any given situation, don’t try to let go or distance yourself, or
be detached. Involve yourself absolutely. In your involvement, you know the situation.
When you know the situation, you see the price that the situation is demanding
on your life. If you remain there, there is a price, if you leave, there is a
price. You must see which price you are willing to pay.
Life is a continuum of situations, if
you are on a growth trajectory, you will be constantly facing situations that
you may not know how to handle. These situations may be challenging, but they
are not a problem. A true problem would be that there are no new situations in
one’s life, which means life is in stagnation mode. If you want to be
continuously in a process of dynamic growth, you will constantly be in new
situations that you may not necessarily know how to handle. If you are facing
many of these so called problems, you’re living a life of great possibility.
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